November 2013 Burslem waiter who used Facebook to tell 15-year-old he wanted to ‘kiss her body’ put on sex offenders register A WAITER who told a 15-year-old girl on Facebook that he ‘loved her’ and wanted to ‘sleep in her arms’ has been placed on the sex offenders register. Abdul Motlib worked at the Indian Cottage restaurant in Stoke-on-Trent where the teenager was a regular customer with her family. The 26-year-old waiter, who usually served the group, at first asked for the girl’s father’s Facebook details, and was later invited to become ‘friends’ with his daughter. But the apparently friendly contact soon became more sinister when Motlib, of Exmouth Grove, Burslem, began to bombard the girl with messages over the social media network. He also obtained her mobile phone number, sent her text messages and tried to arrange meetings. And Prosecutor Paul Farrow told Stoke-on-Trent Crown Court how Motlib begged the girl for photographs of herself and declared his love for her two days later. Mr Farrow said.“He asked her for a photograph of, ‘you know what’. She didn’t know what he was talking about. “The messages were fairly persistent. He said he loved her within two days. He said he wanted to ‘sleep in her arms’ and ‘kiss her body.’” Mr Farrow added: “The defendant always served her. She thought he was aged 18. Her mother thought he was older. At the time he was aged 25. Motlib attempted to convince his victim to meet him, but every time he suggested a time and place to meet, she insisted she would bring friends with her. The court heard she had made it clear to Motlib that she was only 15. And Motlib claimed in his messages that he was 18. Matters came to a head when the young girl’s mother found the messages Motlib had sent and police were called. The waiter told officers he thought the victim was 16 and claimed he must have missed the message she sent informing him of her actual age. He also claimed he told her he was only 18 to, ‘see how she reacted,’ and said he ‘didn’t mean it’ when he told her he loved her. He claimed he had, ‘no bad intentions.’ However, Motlib later admitted attempting to arrange or facilitate the commission of a child sex offence. Sentencing Motlib to a 12-month supervision order, and placing him on the sex offenders register for five years, Judge David Fletcher told him: “You are a man who became obsessed with a 15-year-old girl. “She says you looked younger than the 26 we know you are. You may have taken a view she looked older, but you knew she was 15. You should not have continued with that relationship.” Jason Holt, mitigating, said: “It went no further than wanting to kiss her. “If not for the recent publicity of grooming within the Asian community, it could be this would never have been reported.”